008 - Pecan
Apr. 30th, 2013 08:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
deadly_nedSo.
As a first time Warden more or less mentoring a first time Inmate, there's this very important question that's been hovering menacingly near my head for the last few days like a demonic little helicopter and I would be remiss if I didn't at least ask it, even if I'm sure it's obvious to the more seasoned Wardens, Inmates, what have you.
...Is an Inmate's happiness more important than their graduation?
If you had to choose one, I mean.
And I think I should also ask to Inmates because I don't...like the unspoken divide and communication is usually an effective bridge over most divides..
What do you need from your warden to be happier?
[Private to Claire Bennet, Jesse Pinkman, the Marquis de Sade, and Megamind as a group]
Someone happened to tell me you're a dog person.
I'm trying to..rehome my dog, Digby. My Inmate is scared of them and it's probably best if Digby and I separated until my Inmate graduates. And I'd like to find someone to...borrow him, or take him, but if I don't find someone he'll have to go home and we've never been separated and I'm feeling a little...clingy.
As a first time Warden more or less mentoring a first time Inmate, there's this very important question that's been hovering menacingly near my head for the last few days like a demonic little helicopter and I would be remiss if I didn't at least ask it, even if I'm sure it's obvious to the more seasoned Wardens, Inmates, what have you.
...Is an Inmate's happiness more important than their graduation?
If you had to choose one, I mean.
And I think I should also ask to Inmates because I don't...like the unspoken divide and communication is usually an effective bridge over most divides..
What do you need from your warden to be happier?
[Private to Claire Bennet, Jesse Pinkman, the Marquis de Sade, and Megamind as a group]
Someone happened to tell me you're a dog person.
I'm trying to..rehome my dog, Digby. My Inmate is scared of them and it's probably best if Digby and I separated until my Inmate graduates. And I'd like to find someone to...borrow him, or take him, but if I don't find someone he'll have to go home and we've never been separated and I'm feeling a little...clingy.
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Date: 2013-05-01 01:49 am (UTC)That's only a preliminary estimation. I haven't known him all that long.
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Date: 2013-05-01 01:51 am (UTC)[Private]
Date: 2013-05-01 01:53 am (UTC)Let's just say...I want him to be happy but I don't know how to make anyone happy.
How do you make someone happy?
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Date: 2013-05-01 01:56 am (UTC)Ask him what he likes, and make sure he has access to it. Music or hobbies or somethin'.
Some people like talking to people, too, even if they're not good at it. So uh... make him some friends maybe. Let him tell you about himself?
I don't know. Seems like little stuff usually works.
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Date: 2013-05-01 02:00 am (UTC)You're suggesting I make a playdate for my inmate?
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Date: 2013-05-01 03:18 am (UTC)It's not a direct thing, they kinda went on their own from there once they found people to click with.
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Date: 2013-05-01 03:21 am (UTC)[Private]
Date: 2013-05-01 03:41 am (UTC)[Private]
Date: 2013-05-01 03:43 am (UTC)Wow.
Those are all tremendously good ideas.
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Date: 2013-05-01 03:59 am (UTC)[Says the man that mostly sits off to himself, but that's how he socializes. He likes to just quietly be around people.]
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Date: 2013-05-01 04:00 am (UTC)But I think I need to learn to be in order to help him.
So maybe...we'll both enroll in one of the classes they've started. Or joint-teach something to do with cooking.
Would that..
Do you think that would be the way to go?